You know how it is... you follow a bajillion travel & adventure blogs, decorating blogs, minimalist blogs, favorite or future (of COURSE I'll become a trail runner... one day) hobby blogs, yet nothing changes about your OWN existence.
There's no beautifully decorated house with it's beautiful yard.
No perfectly sewn, perfectly fitted dress to wear to that funky cultural fest in a nearby town.
The belly is still all-too-soft above ratty sweatpants.
There's no great adventure shared with others via amazing photos...
lol. I'm getting depressed just writing this.
The problem is the "doing". You can dream and "want to" all day long, but if you don't get up and actually DO things, nothing will happen.
Even if you don't deal with chronic health issues that sideline you randomly (which I do), getting your butt up out of your comfy spot on the sofa is the biggest hurdle you face.
What's even worse, in my opinion, is that dreamers tend to "embiggen" the IDEA of experiences. We see these photos of other people having the time of their life in some exotic location (or even rural or urban nearby locations) and we expect our local podunk-nowhere to provide an instant omgbrbbesttimeevar.
So, how to get our ideals more down-to-earth. How to create less disappointment in our lives?
Beats the hell outta me. I'm still working on this part.
Here's some things I've figured out, feel free to add your own:
1. It's jealousy (and that's ok). You want the experience (or life as-seen-in-pictures) that someone else already had. Nah, don't beat yourself up over it (I know you already have been.); instead use this as a tool to figure out what it is you desire from their experience. Is it that they are surrounded by happy people? SEEM to have no responsibilities (more on this later)? Are they fit? Is the sunlight just perfect for the beautiful scenery? Is it just that they are somewhere new and you're damn tired of seeing the same stretch of blight on Main St. everyday? Defining what it is you desire can help make it into a manageable goal.
2. You already know your own weaknesses. Too lazy to run? Impossible to find something the entire family wants to do? Lack of disposable income. Clutter... clutter everywhere... In general, stuff is just too overwhelming to take on. This actually ties into number 3.
3. Habit is key. Yay! You got up and walked around the block! But you hated it. The temperature was awful. Too many bugs. Too much traffic. Whatever the reasons, you don't take another walk until you read yet another inspiring blog post that gets you outside again. Once in a while isn't habit. Habit happens after you do something a bunch of times, regularly. And it will become progressively easier for you to do (aka practice makes perfect). Which brings us to 4...
4. Motivation is another key. Are you self-motivated and stubborn? Most of the fight is done for you then. Are you completely reliant on motivation from outside sources? Okay, you have a bit of a hill to get past first. Some folks are wired to be socially motivated even if they themselves struggle socially (I'm in this boat, so I know all too well how difficult it is).
So, tying in numbers 2-4, acknowledge your weaknesses and try to work with or around them while also acknowledging your strengths (they are there) and developing those.
I've lost my motivation to continue this post. More later.
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